That’s a really sobering comment, one that will certainly keep me up at night and cause some introspection. It hurts my feelings, but it’s good criticism, and I get it.
BUT, I don’t know how this is only being read as a sex thing; I’m not trying to be Vance Munson a la Hitch. Mia is a girl who I really liked and thought I could date. Not just try and smash. My use of the word “Sex” in the column is more of a proxy for a relationship that goes beyond “just friends.” Now, having said that, I also do not view Mia as a girl who I keep around just because at one point over the spring I had a big crush on her. I truly do value her friendship, as I value all my friendships, and I never would want to reduce our relationship to just “yeah she’s hot, I want to hit it.” That’s not the intention of the story.
To be 10000% transparent, I wrote this to introduce Jen in a unique way, and to kind of phase Mia out, so to speak, as well as try and write about this thought I’ve been kicking around about what the hell is the definition of “Date.” I will say, I think the point about intention is the best thing i’ve read in here and is well taken.
I do not think date implies romance or vice versa. I’ve gone on “dates” in the true sense of the word (think Bumble match) and have had zero romance. And I’ve hung out with friends in a scenario that probably didn’t intend to be a date and it go flirty. The point I’m trying to make and doing a horribleeeeee job of is to not overlook maybe a really great guy or girl who’s sitting right in front of your face just because you think it’s blasphemous to try a romantic “date” with a friend.
That’s not how I would describe my “attitude” towards being friends with women. I like women, and have many friends who are women. I’m not looking to have sex with them (maybe a few). But if they flat out said they wanted to, would I stop them? Probably not. If you think that makes me a creep? I’m not going to lose sleep over it.
This is going to sound strange, because I’m 100% straight and have never had sex with a man and don’t intend to, but like if I had a buddy who was gay, and we got drunk, and he convinced me to have sex with him, then I went into the date with NO INTENTION of having sex with him but did anyway. So, did we go on a date?
Nah man you miss the point. Like, I could go for drinks with a girl I’ve been friends with for twenty years but if she’s single there’s a NON-ZERO chance of sex. That’s a date.
Thought the character development for Kylo and Rey was great, actually. Movie would have been SO much better if they let Finn complete his Randy Quaid impersonation
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That’s a really sobering comment, one that will certainly keep me up at night and cause some introspection. It hurts my feelings, but it’s good criticism, and I get it.
BUT, I don’t know how this is only being read as a sex thing; I’m not trying to be Vance Munson a la Hitch. Mia is a girl who I really liked and thought I could date. Not just try and smash. My use of the word “Sex” in the column is more of a proxy for a relationship that goes beyond “just friends.” Now, having said that, I also do not view Mia as a girl who I keep around just because at one point over the spring I had a big crush on her. I truly do value her friendship, as I value all my friendships, and I never would want to reduce our relationship to just “yeah she’s hot, I want to hit it.” That’s not the intention of the story.
To be 10000% transparent, I wrote this to introduce Jen in a unique way, and to kind of phase Mia out, so to speak, as well as try and write about this thought I’ve been kicking around about what the hell is the definition of “Date.” I will say, I think the point about intention is the best thing i’ve read in here and is well taken.
I do not think date implies romance or vice versa. I’ve gone on “dates” in the true sense of the word (think Bumble match) and have had zero romance. And I’ve hung out with friends in a scenario that probably didn’t intend to be a date and it go flirty. The point I’m trying to make and doing a horribleeeeee job of is to not overlook maybe a really great guy or girl who’s sitting right in front of your face just because you think it’s blasphemous to try a romantic “date” with a friend.
That’s not how I would describe my “attitude” towards being friends with women. I like women, and have many friends who are women. I’m not looking to have sex with them (maybe a few). But if they flat out said they wanted to, would I stop them? Probably not. If you think that makes me a creep? I’m not going to lose sleep over it.
Who you’ve had sex with prior, or have ended up having sex with. To me, that’s a date. And I’ll die thinking that.
THOSE ARE DATES
This is going to sound strange, because I’m 100% straight and have never had sex with a man and don’t intend to, but like if I had a buddy who was gay, and we got drunk, and he convinced me to have sex with him, then I went into the date with NO INTENTION of having sex with him but did anyway. So, did we go on a date?
I love this
HARD disagree
Nah man you miss the point. Like, I could go for drinks with a girl I’ve been friends with for twenty years but if she’s single there’s a NON-ZERO chance of sex. That’s a date.
Way before Nirvana (who are overrated, btw)
You’re def not alone; every girl I know DESPISES her….I’m obviously a fan
Million degrees in NYC today. In the words of Smeltre, “I’m getting fucked up this weekend”
Get these girls in touch with the TB crew, get ’em on the Poddy!!
Thought the character development for Kylo and Rey was great, actually. Movie would have been SO much better if they let Finn complete his Randy Quaid impersonation
Hey now, we’ve each had our poignant moments, though few and far between.
Thinking about coming out of retirement, tbh
Yeah man. Provincetown’s a wild place
Pic was taken right after I got out of a cast where I had broken leg and was bed ridden for 6 weeks bro. All trimmed back out now homie
I like her a lot. Rooting for her for sure. Tell her I, too, enjoy Crazy, Stupid, Love 🙂
Amazing. Which one is it